These photos (except of the 3 kids) were all taken by my talented sister, Tiffini. I used my Photoshop to make them look a little more awesome!
Monday, October 21, 2013
Friday, October 18, 2013
My Shaping Up posts are done for now. From a medical perspective, I have a health situation (for lack of a better term/phrase) that needs addressed first. Losing weight is not going to be possible for a while. But, I do need to at least maintain my current weight. As you all have read, I don’t seem to struggle too much with that. When I’m ready to share more details, I will.
Thursday, October 17, 2013
I gave in and had it catered. I didn’t want to make large meals two weekends in a row. The weekend before was Alex’s Adoption Day party and I made a mix of Ukrainian and American foods. But this cake, well, it came from the freezer section in Kroger and I added the “Ella” and “2” candle, myself. That’s something.
She did not like having people sing Happy Birthday to her. This is her awkward, hand-thing she does when she is uncomfortable. Bless her heart.
Her birthday gift from us was a kitchen set. She loves hosting parties in her room!
She loved opening her gifts! But she was clearly exhausted from all the entertaining, as well.
Such a sweet girl, growing so fast! What a wonderful day we had celebrating with family!
Friday, October 11, 2013
In honor of Sweet Girl’s birthday, please visit my friend’s blog to see ways you can help Beatrice’s family! They are hoping to bring Sweet Girl home in December - they are so close! Can you lend a hand in lifting the financial burden of adoption expenses?
Always in my heart Sweet Girl.
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
I forgot to post, but didn't forget to weigh myself last Friday.
My weight was 154.5 on 10/4.
I feel like I'm just fluctuating between a couple pounds which is most likely water weight and inflamation in response to foods that disagree with me.
Since I can't seem to consistently exercise for various reasons, I was inspired by Reed to squeeze in a short 10 to 15 minute work out just before taking a shower. I've done this twice now and I think that mentally linking exercise to showering will create a good habit that allows for flexibility in my schedule.
Also, my in-laws are successful distributors for a wellness company (it is their main stream of income) and I started using the meal replacement shakes for breakfast. I honestly wanted to avoid this because I've been striving to eat organic, whole food for a while now. But, desperate times call for desperate measures... I guess.
Lunch has been a rotation between soups, salads, and the meal replacement shakes. My goal is to always keep my lunch calories below 300. (I had originally posted "200" and that was a typo.) It seems to be working.
Dinners were my pitfall. I didn't change the biggest meal we eat until this week because I honestly didn't know what to do. I attempted going Paleo but that was frustrating because of the constant search for rare ingredients. Maybe I didn't try hard enough. However, if I can find all the ingredients, I will use a Paleo dish. This week, I began using the book, Saving Dinner the Low-Carb Way, by Leanne Fly. It does all my meal planning for me, including a grocery list! I luv this book!
So, combined with the pre-shower exercise, meal replacement shakes, and low carb dinners, I'm hopeful that over the next couple weeks (I'm not expecting a weight loss this week) I will see some weight loss.
Friday, October 4, 2013
Reed and I talked for a long time about our situation. The talk was much-needed and I have a hunch that we may have saved ourselves thousands of dollars in counseling. People aren’t lying when they stress the importance of keeping up communication in a marriage. I’ll blame myself in not first, going to my husband with something like, Hey Honey, I feel like you are physically neglecting me. And, in all fairness to my husband, how dare I expect things to automatically go back to how they once were, before the accident.
Truth be told, just like with everything else that we’ve had to overcome in our marriage – before, during and after Reed’s accident – simply bringing up the problem in conversation is a great place to start!
While talking with each other, it was brought up to my attention that I wasn’t fully understanding the situation. Now, I feel it was wrong of me to place most of the blame on Reed’s accident as the reason for our lack of connection. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. All in a matter of a few months, we had a scare with Alex’s health, stopped an adoption, dealt with Reed’s car accident, and the most recent... well, the most recent issue deserves its own blog post. Anyway, there is bound to be some stress.
In all honesty, I didn’t grieve any of these events fairly. I just pushed through to whatever needed done. The scare of Alex possibly needing spinal surgery… having to stop an adoption that was so close to being complete… almost losing my husband in a car accident… all of these events I never properly processed. I became overwhelmed and stressed. Then, all of a sudden I found myself unwilling to play my role in my family. I started letting things slip more than usual – the dishes, laundry, housework… I had an insatiable need for sleep. All I wanted to do was sleep, instead of addressing my responsibilities. Reed picked up the slack a lot before returning to work full time. Once my dear husband did return to work, he would come home to find no laundry had been done. However, he needed a clean shirt for the next day so he would do the laundry, without complaint. Or, no dishes had been done, but guess what, we no longer have any clean silverware to eat with, so he would do the dishes, without complaint. Out of necessity, because he has a servant heart, he would spend his time picking up my slack. He didn’t have the time to think about ways to show affection toward me. He was too busy trying to keep our household going. He was too busy trying to catch up with his work, after missing a few months. He was overwhelmed with work and household responsibilities and I was overwhelmed with emotions that I still hadn’t processed.
This chaos all led to my feelings of neglect. When really, Reed wasn’t neglecting me, he was trying to serve me; trying to keep things going in our home. Reed was leading our home by acting in the best interest of our family. He kept our household going by picking up my slack, without complaint. He just kept serving and serving. And once I brought up my feelings to him, he talked through everything with love and kindness. He never placed blame, instead, he helped me to see what the issues were. Reed apologized for making me feel neglected and promised to make it better.
Through my own reflection and prayer, it didn’t take long for me to see that Reed isn’t responsible for making things better nor my sense of peace! If I focus on my blessings, keep up my responsibilities, and lay my suffering at feet of Christ, I will find peace. The peace I have been desiring all along. The peace that comes only through my surrender to Christ.
I urge you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God, your spiritual worship. Do not conform yourselves to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and pleasing and perfect.
~ Romans 12:1-2